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Learning to say “NO”


“Learn to say ‘no’ to the good so you can say ‘yes’ to the best.”

No. Nah. Nope/Nopes. Is it so difficult to say these words? 🙄 Yes, it is. I agree saying “Yes” is much more easier than saying “No”, but at what price to your peace of mind? Many of us grow up to be people pleasers (I’m kinda one of them). 😀 The word “No” drops out of our vocabulary, and we substitute lots of ways to be agreeable and keep the other person happy.

People who have difficulty saying “No” often believe that they are expected to say “Yes”. Deep down if they really wish to say “No”, but are unable to, tampers their peace of mind. They feel they’re constantly under some pressure. It eventually becomes a burden. 😦

“Yes and No are very short words to say, but we should think for some length of time before saying them.”

Everyday there are countless requests waiting for you from people surrounding you. By people I mean, your friends or even family members and sometimes people whom you don’t even know. When people always expect something or the other from you, does not mean you’ve to always say “Yes” to them and do their work. Sometimes your work is of much more importance than theirs. In situations like these, saying “No” can be good for you, instead of being a yes man all the time. And saying “No” isn’t a selfish act that you’ve to feel guilty about. Let go of the guilt, because if you don’t, then it’s only going to add stress in your life.


I’m also not saying that, you’ve to always say “No”. Sure, there are some instances when someone really needs your help to complete some work or anything. This is the right time to say “Yes”. So, the trick here is to prioritize the things that you feel are important to you and let go of others.

The best ways to say “No” is to say the truth. Lacking confidence and giving lots of reasons supporting your “No” to convince the other person that you mean it can sometimes backfire you. 😆 Because when the lie is exposed, you’ll need some other reasons to support your lie. 😀 Giving stupid reasons sure won’t help, infact it will only hurt the other person. 😥 So, the truth is always the best way to turn down a friend, a family member or co-worker. 🙂

Saying “No” won’t be easy if you’re used to saying “Yes” all the time. But learning to do so is very important. I sometimes feel small kids are better than us, atleast they know when to say “No” and they are so adamant while doing it. 😉 😛 We need to learn somethings from them.
Atleast I wanna learn it. 😛 🙂

Categories: Life, Thoughts
  1. guru88
    October 12, 2009 at 7:33 PM

    What u said is perfectly right. I agree with you.. It is indeed difficult to say “NO”….. Keep writing things like these…. 🙂

    • Aditi
      October 14, 2009 at 8:19 PM

      Thanks! I’ll definitely try to. 🙂

  2. Anu
    October 12, 2009 at 8:57 PM

    Small kids are the best. They don’t have to bother about the society, they don’t have to bother what he/she will feel, they just say what they feel, they speak their heart out. 🙂

    As we grow up, we build a bubble around ourselves that pressurises us.

    We should try being kids again. Life will be a lot more happier then … 🙂

    • Aditi
      October 14, 2009 at 8:20 PM

      Seriously, I agree with you. Wish we could be kids again.
      Thanks! 🙂

  3. October 12, 2009 at 8:59 PM

    I wanna learn that too! Seriously. I’m terrible at that. Even if saying NO is gonna be good for me.. I end up saying.. “Err.. umm, ohkay” 😛

    • Aditi
      October 14, 2009 at 8:21 PM

      Even I end up doing the same thing. 😀 😛
      Thanks. 🙂

  4. thenomad
    October 12, 2009 at 9:43 PM

    Bingo! Absolutely perfectly put! And I perfectly agree with what Anu has said. As we grow, we become weaker.

    I did a feature on saying NO as well: http://wp.me/pAEMz-1o

    Another very good one by a friend of mine:


    • Aditi
      October 14, 2009 at 8:23 PM

      Thanks for the comment. Yours was the 50th one. 😀
      And I’ll definitely read the posts you’ve mentioned. 🙂

  5. Dhananjay
    October 27, 2009 at 12:25 AM

    Good writing yar 🙂 there is great sync between thought nd writing 🙂 Kool 🙂

    • Aditi
      October 27, 2009 at 12:28 AM

      Thanks and Welcome to my Blog! 🙂

  6. October 27, 2009 at 4:14 PM

    Hey Nice one… I shuld be the first one to follow this as i m too shy at times to say No to anyone… nice blog layout too… will keep following you for more articles…

    Till then keep blogging…

    take care.. 🙂

    • Aditi
      October 28, 2009 at 11:41 PM

      It’s the same with me. Even I hate that thing about me.
      Thanks for the comment! 🙂
      You too, Take care! 🙂

  7. October 30, 2009 at 2:23 PM

    Hey Aditi,
    Nicely written man. Keep up the good work.
    By the way, the trail to your website was through Anubha’s Blog.

    Calvin :)~

    • Aditi
      October 31, 2009 at 12:24 PM

      Ohh you’re THE Calvin, heard a lot about you from Anubha.
      Welcome to my Blog!
      And Thanks a ton for the comment! 🙂

  8. manishahujas
    August 24, 2011 at 1:14 PM

    Hmmm…. Looks like I’m the only one who gets to bear the brunt of your learning. Its rather easy for you to tell me a No. “No, I won’t watch this movie. Why should I?” 😛

    On a serious note, I know and I can say with some confidence, that you can tell me a NO, if you don’t agree to something I say/ do. It might cause some trouble, rarely, BUT, it gives me a lot of pride to know that you can speak your heart with me. Enough said?

    Manish 🙂

    • Aditi
      August 24, 2011 at 4:39 PM

      Hehe, It’s been 10 minutes since I read this and I still can’t stop laughing/ smiling. 😛

      On a very serious note, it makes me so happy that I can speak my heart out with you. Not like I did the other day, though. 😀 That was just something else.

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