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Expectations and Acceptance

September 16, 2009 Leave a comment Go to comments

“We cannot change anything, until we accept it.”

Everybody needs a reality check. It depends on you, how you take it, positively or negatively and this varies from person to person. The ones who take it negatively will continue to see faults in every situation. Like it’s said, “A pessimist does not see the pros of a situation, he can only point out the cons.” And that is so very true. If your frameset is such that nothing good will ever happen/ has ever happened to me then, it actually won’t happen.

Having a positive attitude can help a person appreciate life more. 🙂 It’s like looking more into the good things in life rather than the bad ones. One has to be content with whatever he/she has in life. Just imagine if you cannot walk or talk anymore or see the beauty that is all around you. 😯 Many people realize this only after losing these valuable things. So why not appreciate life in general and the many things that you can still do and thank God for it.

Problems help us to test our ability to deal with life and to survive in the worst situations. People are hurt, when things do not happen the way they want. And then they keep on cribbing about the smallest of things. 😥 For example, I asked for a small round ice-cream cake with a cherry on top and I got a 3-tier German chocolate cake with an extra supply of mango souffle and butter cookies. 😛 Now, that’s great. But the point is, where is my small round ice-cream cake with a cherry on top? 🙄 Is that too much to ask for? 😦 No, it isn’t too much to ask for. It was never too much. But maybe someone thought they would give you more than you wanted assuming that would make you happier. But they assumed wrong, didn’t they know you wanted just that one small cake, and all the big ones in the world cannot make up for the fact that you didn’t get the one you really wanted. (P.S This example is taken from a TOI article. 😀 )
But, you’ve to understand that things don’t always work out the way you want. I know, it’s difficult to accept things that happen against us and eventually give us pain.
“The quickest way to change your attitude toward pain is to accept the fact that everything that happens to us has been designed for our spiritual growth.”

It’s simple, you’ll never get everything you want in life. And one has to accept this as a matter of fact at some point of time. Your maturity and the strength to accept the truth make you realize this. But your maturity and strength as a person are not measured by how successful you are in life, rather it’s measured by your willingness to accept the truth and admit defeat when you’ve lost. Acceptance is not ceasing to fight or to admit defeat, it’s actually embracing the truth and welcoming the fact that for some reasons these things had to happen.
“Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgement of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you’re going to do about it.”

Once you’ve come to terms with acceptance, life becomes easy. Things become crystal clear and adding to that, the peace of mind you get is just amazing. It’s actually indescribable. 🙂 After that you know which path to choose to reach your goal and eventually achieve success.
“Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.”

Only expecting things to happen the way you want is extremely foolish. You also need to work in that way to make them happen. The bottom line is ‘Expectations always hurt and Acceptance leads you to success along with peace of mind.’ One has to understand that whatever happens, happens for a reason. But these reasons are not known or understood by humans. Once you start accepting things the way they are, you have to have faith in God too, that he has a much better plan for you. There is something else waiting for you. 🙂
“That is the definition of faith — acceptance of that which we imagine to be true, that which we cannot prove.”

“Accept everything about yourself — I mean everything, you are you and that is the beginning and the end — no apologies, no regrets.” 🙂

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  1. saleem
    September 16, 2009 at 9:19 PM

    Accept everything about yourself — I mean everything, you are you and that is the beginning and the end — no apologies, no regrets.”

    i cant do dt….dr r few things that i cant accept abt myself..so i keep on changing it till it becomes da way i want..

    what u hv written is very good..but my way of thinking is very different…

    after all its ur blog not mine..:(

    anyways very nice blog..keep it up…anubha ko competition dena …

  2. September 16, 2009 at 9:30 PM

    keep it up.. cooool thinkin… got inspired.. not only ur looks also ur words r awesome….. keeeeeeeeeeep it up………….. :))

  3. Guru
    September 16, 2009 at 10:57 PM

    1. Once you’ve come to terms with acceptance, life becomes easy. Things become crystal clear and adding to that, the peace of mind you get is just amazing

    2. “Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.”

    These words that you have described is really perfect…. Great thinking….. Congrats!!!!

  4. Anu
    September 16, 2009 at 11:07 PM

    Acceptance leads to peace, agreed, but getting there is difficult. I always crib when I don’t get what I want, even though I know that later in life I’ll know the reason why!

    Faith in God- that’s one thing you ought to hold on to, in order to move on in life. Building faith is also not very easy though..

    Experiences teach you to be aware and lead you to acceptance. 🙂

    Some say we have our own destinies, but I believe we can create our own future, because our present actions determine our future.

    Reminds me of a dialogue from Forrest Gump:

    “I don’t know if we each have a destiny, or if we’re all just floating around accidental-like on a breeze, but I, I think maybe it’s both. Maybe both is happening at the same time.”

    Aaj ke liye bahot philosophy hogayi 😀

    Nice views and you’ve put them down very well… 🙂

  5. Jaya
    September 16, 2009 at 11:17 PM

    i went thru ur post n i think u r absolutely rite…..once u strt acceptin…..thngs gets easier……….
    u r really inspirin me to join dis blog spot dear……….
    keep up d gud wrk………..congrats…..

  6. September 16, 2009 at 11:40 PM

    I knew you would rock it from the 2nd post itself 🙂 very well written Aditi 🙂

    Accepting everything about yourself is what always matters! Everything that you expect to happen doesn’t always happen. And you need to accept what goes against you too.

    Excellent post again!

  7. September 17, 2009 at 4:31 AM

    Here you go! great post! 🙂

  8. September 17, 2009 at 4:39 AM

    And yea even if the circumstances don’t favour you, u ought to make them favour you! 😀 😀

  9. September 18, 2009 at 10:46 AM

    kool post………….sahi bolti hai sahi bolti hai……….i guess the point here is tht we all know what right and what wrong just need to make the right choice when the time comes………expect or accept.

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